When you've been ill for a long time, or you have a condition from birth, you really have to be careful who you talk to about it.
Let's say your back hurts, because you pulled a muscle. The first couple of days, you can get a lot of sympathy for that. If it still hurts a week later, you'll probably find people are getting tired of hearing about it. A month later, you better be cured or dead, because no one wants to listen to that any more. You're still in pain, and it's affecting you, but they are not in pain, and they can't really relate to you. They've run out of sympathy, suggestions, and are starting to think that you're just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Luckily, there are other places to go to for support. If you keep dipping in to that same well of friends, you're just not going to get the responses that you need, and you'll end up angry, and they'll be annoyed.
If you check around for a local support group, chances are you'll find something, even if not exactly specific to your needs. My favourite place though is this:
I am not a big fan of the internet. I think it lends itself to people being crappy to each other, but groups like the above are a great reminder that people are also there for each other, and there to support complete strangers. That's something pretty cool, and for some, it's a real life saver.
The truth is, you're not whining. You have a right to complain, to be sad, to be angry. You just need to find the right people to help you back up.
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